Dear Finding Completeness,
Continuing with the idea of not finding completeness in a man but rather finding a relationship that compliments, I want you to think about what a responsibility it would be for a man to try to complete his woman.
As a woman myself, I know firsthand how crazy my mind and heart can be. It is constantly changing with my mood or emotions, that trying to keep track of it would be impossible. Be honest with yourself, would you want to deal with trying to complete someone that is constantly changing with the weather? I know that I would NOT want to, because it would be so frustrating trying to figure out what exactly would work to fill me. Half the time I don’t know what I want myself, How can I expect my husband, Ryan, to know?
A man can’t and should not be expected to fill the gap in a woman’s heart. That is too much pressure to put on our men. That responsibility was specifically created for Jesus to fill.
Colossians 2:9-10 – For in him dwelleth all the fulness of the Godhead bodily. And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power:
Psalm 73:28 – But it is good for me to draw near to God: I have put my trust in the Lord God, that I may declare all thy works.
So… How full of Jesus are you? Are you letting Him complete you? Pray before answering. Ask God to show you your fullness in Christ. And… Find out how much more you need Christ and then start filling yourself up with him.
Insert Relationship Triangle here.
A Christian relationship between a man and a woman needs to be focused on growing closer to God, that is the compliment part. Working together to get closer to God in fact draws two incomplete people closer together in their relationship.
Marriage teaches us that even the most intimate human companionship cannot satisfy the deepest places of the heart. Our hearts are lonely ’til they rest in Him.
– Elisabeth Elliot.
Elisabeth Elliot was married 3 times (twice widowed), she knew from experience that marriage does not complete – only Jesus does. If she had depended upon any of her husbands for completeness, then she would have ended up devastated, but because she only depended upon God to fill all the corners of her heart, she was able to weather the devastation of losing two husbands and continue in her ministry to the Auca Indians in Ecuador.
So, where are looking for completeness today. It is in your future husband? A baby? Your job? If so, maybe it is time you re-think about what it should be. Just a thought.
Signing off,
Tami