Dear Christmas Wish,

I know that with the holidays, being single seems even more difficult to handle. You wish that you had that special someone that you could share all the wonderful traditions and food of Christmas with. This time of year always seems to bring out the joy and love of all the couples around you, which only reminds you so much more that you still don’t have someone of your own to hold close and cherish. Instead of feeling the joy of the season, you feel alone and kind of pathetic. I have been there, and I know how depressing it is to go shopping without anyone really to buy gifts for, except for the usual family members and couple girlfriends that you have known since diapers.

For me, Christmas became a season where I would busy myself in my work and volunteer for extra activities at church. I thought that if I focused on my career and not spend my time thinking about Mr. Right, I would somehow find fulfillment. But little did I know at the time, a great career would never satisfy or complete the emptiness I often felt around the holidays or from my singleness. This feeling of loneliness during this season, is not a lack of a boyfriend to shop for or spend the holidays with, it is me not allowing myself to be full of Jesus.

I have talked in past posts about going on a date with Jesus, and becoming complete in Him.

We often hear the phrase, “You complete me,” from movies or tv shows when someone is confessing their love. But this idea is wrong. No boyfriend can ever complete you completely. I know that sounds weird, but hear me out. We are designed by God to only be complete in Him. So, if two “incomplete” singles get married, their union will not make them complete.

When I first met my husband, Ryan, I knew that he was a good, godly man, but also that he would never be everything I need. He could never fill up the parts of my heart that God designed only for Him to fill. That is why God wants us to seek completeness in Him. That means during the holidays, we don’t have to worry about being single as we sit by a warm fire and drink cocoa.

This time of year is so special for everyone, married or single. Because it is the time we are reminded that the Jesus who wants to fill our hearts, is the same Jesus who was born in a manger in Bethlehem. That baby boy came to this earth with the purpose to save you; not just for your salvation, but from the loneliness and despair that can come from singleness when we don’t allow him to help and fill us. He wants to complete you, so that when you do meet someone, that person can “complement” your life in Jesus.

So, my Christmas wish for you is that you seek completeness in that baby that saved you those many years ago. So that one day you may find someone that will help you, complementing your life, in seeking God. You really need someone that will help you grow closer to Jesus, that way you too will find fulfillment. Jesus loves you so much, and He wants to be there for you this holiday season. Will you let Him fill your heart this Christmas?

Merry Christmas and God Bless.

                                                                               Signing off,
                                                                               Tami